Why there is no such thing as a “League” in Dating or Romantic Relationships

I’m sure you’ve heard of these phrases: “She’s out of my league, she’ll never date me.” or “He’s out my league, he’ll never ask me out.” What is this “league” that people are talking about when it comes to dating?

From my experience, this “league” that people are talking about is nothing more than a superficial concept that people a long time ago made up. Most of it has to do with a physical attractiveness of a person and his/her partner. 

When the guy is ugly and the girl he’s dating is pretty, people will say “oh he’s rich” or “oh that girl must have low standards.” When the girl is ugly and the guy is good-looking, people will say “that guy must have an exotic taste.” 

It’s a toxic and shallow concept that people unconsciously use. If a “league” was true, then there would be no ugly guys with attractive girlfriends, there would be no ugly girls with attractive husbands. It has to stop.

What people don’t realize is another age old concept that “beauty is in the eye of the beholder.” There are other things that make people attractive other than their looks or how pretty of a face they have. 

  • Physical Fitness/Aesthetics/Athleticism

People can’t change their face, but they can change their body. Studies show that an attractive body makes up for an unattractive face. This goes for both men and women.

People are attracted to fit people because they have a high amount of sex appeal. I know guys and girls who don’t have a really attractive face, but they regularly workout and maintain their body, and a lot of people are still attracted to them.

  • Personality

What’s the use of being attractive if you have a personality of a rock? Yes you might be hot, but you’re not fun to be around or talk to. People still won’t be attracted to you.

I know a girl in college, she’s below average in looks, some might even call her ugly, but she has the funnest personality in the class. She can make anyone laugh and have a good time. Needless to say that there are guys who ask her out on a regular basis because of that.

  • Confidence

You might be the most attractive person in the room, but you don’t even believe it. You believe that you’re ugly, even though the people around you take a second look at you when they notice you.

Sometimes being attractive is a mindset. If you believe that you’re handsome/beautiful, other people are going to start believing you too.
I know one girl who looks like a model, but she believes she’s ugly because her older brothers kept teasing her when she was younger. It’s a waste because she’s repelling guys just because of her low self-confidence.

  • Interest/Hobbies

Cool hobbies makes you attractive. Guys who play guitar, no matter how good looking they are, will get girls attracted to them. Girls who play sports, especially the sports dominated by men, will get guys attracted to them because they stand out(and they’re also physically fit).

Hobbies and interests make a person’s life interesting, and who wouldn’t be attracted to an interesting person?

  • Career/Money

Last but not the least, your career or financial status. For the career, as long as you have a decent job that pays the bills, you will be an attractive potential partner for stability reasons. It’s only a bonus if your job or business pays high.

As for the money, there’s an old saying “No money, no honey.” Let’s face it, money is important in life. You can’t do most things without money. Yes money can’t buy happiness, but it can buy things or experiences that will make you happy. It can also buy things you actually need like food, water, a house, medicine etc. This is the main reason why most attractive women are somewhat attracted to guys who are rich or well off. 

These are the main things that makes a person attractive, other than their looks. If you have even just one or two of these, you will be an attractive person, no matter how good looking you are. 

A “league” won’t even be a problem for you. You will be on a league of your own.

Why Taking A Break From Social Media Can Do Wonders For Your Mental Health

Can people actually “take a break” from social media? Is it possible with most people spending at least a few hours day on social media? Will this actually improve my mental health?

Over the past two decades, the internet and social media has taken the world by storm. Almost everyone these days has an account in the major social media platforms like Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Snapchat, etc. When you want to find a person, you just have to search his/her name in the search bar and you will find that person(unless that person’s name is very common like John Smith).

There is a main downside to social media, and this is the cause of why mental health issues are rising to an all time high in recent years. This phenomenon is called “FOMO” or “Fear Of Missing Out.” It basically means that you feel like you’re missing out on life compared to your peers or other people in your life. This leads to depression, anxiety, and other mental health issues that plague the masses today.

There is a simple solution to this problem, and that is taking a break from social media. Allow yourself at least 1-2 days without browsing Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Snapchat, or any other major social media platforms. Other people even do this for a week, a month, or even a year! 

Think about this for a second, the average person spends at least 2 hours on social media. On specific platforms, people spend an average of 40 minutes a day on Youtube, 35 minutes a day on Facebook, 25 minutes a day on Snapchat, and 15 minutes a day on Instagram.With those 2 hours you can do something productive or healthier than social media.

Here’s a list of my own ideas I compiled that you can do on your free time to replace your time on social media.
You can:

  • Work out at the gym
  • Read a book
  • Spend time with your family and friends
  • Learn a new skill
  • Do a hobby
  • Learn new things
  • Read the newspaper
  • Spend time with your pets
  • Meet new people
  • Play a sport

These things above are only my idea of things you can do rather than mindlessly scroll through your Facebook or Instagram feed. In one week, you would have spent 14 hours on social media. You can do a lot with those 14 hours!

Not only will you be more productive, but you will do yourself, particularly your mental health a huge favor, when you do this. You will now see how much time you are actually wasting on these platforms. Every post, every picture, every stories, do you really need to see them?

Take a break from social media, and see how your life changes for the better. See how taking a break from Facebook, Instagram or Twitter will do wonders for your mental health. You’ll be glad that you did this and realize that you can live in the world without checking your Facebook notifications or Instagram likes.

How To Start Taking Care Of Yourself

How to Start Taking Care of Yourself

Taking care of yourself is a must for everybody, no matter who you are. Sure, it’s the job of doctors or nurses to take care of people, but not all the time is there going to be a doctor, nurse, or even another person that’s going to take care of you and attend to your every need.

It’s part of being an adult, knowing how to take care of yourself even if there’s nobody around to help you.

If you’re having a hard time knowing how to practice self-care, then here are a few tips:

1) Get Some Alone Time

I don’t care of you’re extroverted, introverted or ambiverted, all of us need alone time. Even the people considered social butterflies need some time for themselves.

Being around other people can drain your energy, especially if some of those people are toxic. There’s nothing wrong with staying at home and binge watching Netflix or YouTube videos.

You don’t have to lock yourself in your bedroom though. You can be alone in a public place like sitting alone in a park bench or a library.

Take at least half an hour or an hour a day to be alone. This will recharge your energy to get you through the week.

2) Spend Time With Loved Ones

This contradicts the first step, but it’s also important. Too much isolation from other people can drive a person crazy. Humans are mostly social creatures after all.

That being said, make sure that the people you spend your time with are people you actually love, or at least people with a positive influence.

You don’t want to waste your time with toxic and pessimistic people.
Spending time with loved ones can boost your mood instantly. It can change your crappy day to a happy day.

Lastly, they won’t be around forever. It’s crucial to spend as much time with them now than regret not being with them later in your life.

3) Exercise

This is a no brainer and everybody knows this, but why do some people still hesitate to actually do it?

Exercising not only has physical benefits, but also mental ones. It produces powerful chemicals in your brain that make you feel good.

If you’re having a bad day, a short workout at the gym or a quick run might be a good solution. You can even do exercises at home like push-ups, crunches, air squats, planks, etc.

Plus, you’re going to look healthy and fit, which can help you when you decide to go on a date.

4) Do Activities or Hobbies That You Like

I haven’t met a person that has absolutely no hobbies. Everyone has something.

This can make your life a lot more interesting and exciting than it is now.

I personally like going to the gym and playing sports. These two hobbies have helped me shape a more interesting life, plus it’s connected to the previous tips so I’m also getting exercise.

Find a hobby that you like and you will not only become less bored but you will also be a more interesting and happy person.

5) Try Something New

If you’ve been doing the same thing for the past couple of months, or even years, then it’s time to try something new. Probably one of the reasons why you’ve been feeling down lately is because of your old routine.

Try something new for a change. It can be anything. Try going to a place you’ve never been to before, eat a dish you’ve never tried eating, watch a movie genre you don’t usually watch, etc. 

Novelty is never boring and will spice up your life.

6) Talk To a Professional or Someone You Trust

If you’re still feeling down, and maybe this has been going on for a long time, then maybe you should take drastic measures. 

Talking to a professional Psychiatrist/Psychologist/Therapist will save you from further damage you can do to yourself. Just find a professional that is willing to genuinely help you because not all professionals in the mental health industry will be able to help you.

If you can’t do that for whatever reason, then talk to the people around you, your loved ones. Find someone who’s willing to listen to you without judging you. 

You will definitely feel better after you let out these pent up feelings. Talking to someone will most probably save your life.

Taking care of yourself is a never ending journey. You will have to do this for the rest of your life. It’s tiring, but it will be worth it. No price is too big to pay for your health. As the saying goes: “Health is Wealth.”

3 Lessons I Learned From Kobe Bryant

Most kids today who watch basketball, idolize guys like Stephen Curry, Lebron James, Russell Westbrook, Kevin Durant and all the other current all stars in the NBA today. When I was a kid though, there was one player who everybody idolized and looked up to, that player was Kobe Bryant. Kobe was a player who could do it all. He can score, shoot, pass, rebound, defend, and do low post moves better than most big men in his time. Whenever people round my age shoot, they scream “Kobe!” Even when kids pretend to play basketball around a garbage can in a classroom, when they shoot, they scream “Kobe!” That’s how Kobe affected the basketball world forever. He was my generation’s Michael Jordan.
There are some lessons I learned from Kobe Bryant, lessons that can be applied anywhere not just in basketball.

1) Work Super Hard to Become Super Successful

“I heard the ball bouncing. No lights were on. Practice was at about 11, it was probably about 9, 9:30. And I go out to the court and I look, and there’s Kobe Bryant. He’s out there shooting in the dark. And I stood there for probably about ten seconds, and I said, ‘This kid is gonna be great.'” -Byron Scott

If there was one thing insane about Kobe Bryant, it was his insane work ethic. There were many stories about Kobe’s work ethic from his former teammates and the people around him. Stories like how he was the very first player to arrive in the court and the last player to leave the court. One story I heard was that Kobe slept for only 3-4 hours and use those extra waking hours to practice. Whenever I play basketball to practice it’s even less than 30 minutes!

This was a huge part in Kobe Bryant’s success in his NBA career. He was willing to work harder than any other player in the league. We can all see how that turned out as he became one of the top 10 NBA players of all time. 

If you want to be super successful at anything then you have to work super hard also. If you want to be a top person of all time in your field, then be prepared to work, hustle, and grind like you never did before.

2) Be Resilient When Faced with an Obstacle

“I have moments and I have days where I doubt myself. But to me, that’s the exciting part of the challenge.That’s when I realize this is a great opportunity to come out and show everybody this is how you bounce back. This is how you respond to a challenge.” – Kobe Bryant

Hardcore Kobe fans remember his “airball game” when he was a rookie in the NBA. It happened against the Utah Jazz in the post season where he shot a few air balls which caused them to lose the series against the Jazz. Kobe faced a lot of criticism and hate during this time. He even doubted himself. He could have folded and played normally, but he used this as motivation. The season after that in his first game against the Jazz, Kobe scored 23 points off the bench beating the Jazz that game, getting his revenge.

Everybody faces adversity, obstacles, and setbacks in their lives. Nobody in the world has never experienced some form of failure or rejection in their lives. What defines us is how we respond to these setbacks in our lives. Successful people have a tendency to bounce back after every failure or setback that happens to them.

3) Learn From Other People

“I cold call people and pick their brain about stuff. Some of the questions I ask seem really really simple and some of them seem stupid, quite honestly, for them. But if I don’t know, I don’t know. I have to ask. I’ll just do that and ask questions. I want to learn more about how they build their business and how they run their companies and how they see the world.” – Kobe Bryant

After Kobe’s basketball career, he ventured into other fields and became an entrepreneur. Last year, he even won an Oscar for an animated short film he did titled “Dear Basketball.” 

This shows that you can be successful at any area you choose. In the case of Kobe, just because he was a basketball player for most of his life, doesn’t mean he only going to be successful in that field. With the right training, practice and coaching, anyone can become successful at almost anything. It also helps if you ask for advice from people who are already successful at that field you want to be successful at. 

Kobe Bryant is a basketball legend. We can learn many things from his basketball career and his life. If you want to model your success after any NBA player, then Kobe might be one of the best role models out there.

The Bravest People I Know

How do we define bravery? What exactly makes a person brave? Based on the dictionary, bravery is defined as “ready to face and endure danger or pain; showing courage.” Bravery is defined as simply “courageous behavior or character.” What does a brave person look like in every day life?

Bravery may have a different image for different kinds of people. What you define as brave might not be brave for another person. For me though, I know three kinds of people that definitely fits the criteria, or even candidates for being the bravest people.

1) People who keep going for their dreams or goals, despite endless rejection or failure
Rejection and failure are two of the most hurtful things a person can experience, they happen to everybody. Despite that, every successful person has gone through a large number of rejections or failures. 

If you search the life story of your favorite celebrity, there’s a 100% chance that he or she had to go through a massive amount of rejection or failure that a normal person couldn’t handle or is not willing to go through.

If you are one of these people, I commend you for having the courage to keep going for your dreams. Never give up!

2) People who keep loving like they haven’t experienced heartbreak
Let’s face it, nobody wants to go through a breakup. Actually you’re lucky if you have experienced a breakup, other people have experienced worse like being cheated on or being ghosted. Normally, people will build up hatred after experiencing these. Men will hate women, women will hate men. They also will be hesitant to get into another relationship after a failed one/s. 

Some people though, are so brave, that they keep putting themselves out there. They keep dating, or getting into relationships, despite the fact that they’ve been hurt by their exes in the past. Eventually, they find love and get married to a person who’s perfect for them.

I admire these people, it makes me questions my own mindset when it comes to dating or relationships.

3) People who live with a mental illness, and is continuing to live or even living a great life despite it
When it comes to physical illness, people around you are ready to comfort you; when it comes to mental illness though, people around you will tend to avoid you. That’s the sad truth for mental health, it has a stigma even in modern times.

Insensitive people or clueless people will label these people with mental illnesses as “crazy” or “abnormal” or “insane” while not knowing the backstory of these kinds of people.

Whenever I see a person who’s successful and has experienced having a mental illness, I get inspired a lot. Despite the world being cruel to them, they fought through it, and are still fighting for their lives today.

If you haven’t had a mental illness, then consider yourself lucky. The world is different for these kinds of people. In a video game, it’s like normal people are playing with the normal difficulty, while people with mental illness are playing with the super hard difficulty.

I suggest you study up about mental health, who knows, maybe one of the people closest to you is experiencing this right now and you’re not even aware of it. 

If you are one of these people: get professional help, get support from trusted people, and more importantly, keep going, keep fighting, and keep living.

A Quick List of Famous Failures and Rejections for Quick Motivation and Inspiration

Most people know the success stories of their favorite celebrities or heroes, but what most people don’t know are the stories about their failures or rejections that they had to go through before getting successful. If you need a quick motivation or inspiration, here is a short list of famous failures and rejections.

  • Henry Ford failed and went broke five times before he succeeded.
  • Beethoven’s teacher called him hopeless as a composer.
  • NFL running back Herschel Walker was not accepted to his junior high school football team because the coach said he was too small.
  • Colonel Sanders of KFC got rejected over 1000 times before someone finally bought his chicken recipe. At the age of 75, he sold his fried chicken company for $15 million.
  • Dr. Seuss’s first children’s book, “And to Think That I Saw It on Mulberry Street” was rejected by 27 publishers.
  • The University of Bern turned down a doctoral dissertation, the student’s name was Albert Einstein.
  • Charles Darwin was called by his father and some of his teachers “a very ordinary boy, rather below the common standard in intellect.”
  • Walt Disney was fired by a newspaper editor for lack of ideas, and also went bankrupt before he built Disneyland.
  • Thomas Edison’s teachers said he was too stupid to learn anything.
  • Isaac Newton did poorly in grade school.
  • Babe Ruth, who holds the home run record, also holds the record for strikeouts.
  • 50 cent was arrested at the age of 19-years old, after a string of run-ins with the cops and a subsequent arrest for possession of drugs and a firearm.
  • Elvis Presley was told that he couldn’t sing.
  • It took Harrison Ford 9 years before he landed his breakthrough role in “American Graffiti”.
  • Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Hansen’s book “Chicken Soup for the Soul” was rejected by 144 publishers.
  • It took Jim Carrey 15 years to land his break in Ace Ventura.
  • J.K Rowling’s first Harry Potter book was rejected by 12 publishers.
  • It took Katy Perry 9 years before releasing her hit song I Kissed A Girl.
  • Stephen King’s first book Carrie was rejected by 30 publishers.
  • Sylvester Stallone was broke and homeless, and also was rejected 1,500 times before he decided to write the script for Rocky.
  • The Beatles were told that “guitar groups were on their way out.”
  • Michael Jordan was cut from his high school basketball team.
  • It took LeBron James 9 years before he won his first championship.
  • Jeremy Lin was undrafted and jumped around different teams before becoming “Linsanity” on the New York Knicks.
  • Stephen Curry had no offers for college basketball when he graduated high school.
  • Manny Pacquiao was living in extreme poverty and hunger before eventually becoming one of the best boxers in history.

If you ever need a quick dose of motivation or inspiration, remember the stories of the celebrities in this list before you give up on your goals and dreams.

3 Life Lessons I’ve Learned from Toy Story 4

Oh the memories

Ah, my favorite childhood film. Toy Story is the best. Its concept is not only for children, but for people of all ages. I watched this movie when I was a kid, a few days ago I watched it when I’m 26 years old, and I still enjoyed it!

Toy Story 4 was a great film(come to think of it, 1-3 was also great, everything about this series is great). Not only was I entertained by the movies, but each movie seems to have a few life lessons that you can apply to your life.

In Toy Story 4, these are the lessons I’ve learned(along with the movie quotes):

  1. “Be who you are right now.” -Bo Peep
    Bo Peep said this to Duke Caboom when Duke was losing confidence in himself. He was comparing himself to other more successful Duke Caboom toys. Bo Peep said this to raise his confidence in helping them get Forky back.

    While this was meant to be a pep talk, you can learn something here. How many of you compare yourself everyday to other people, especially people who you think are “better” than you? I say don’t compare yourself! You have to realize that everyone is different from you. Everyone is unique in their own way. Just like Duke Caboom in the movie who’s more prone to crashing than other toys.
  2. “Being there for a child is the most noble thing a toy can do.” – Woody
    In the movie, Woody did his best to be there for his owner, Bonnie. Even if he was not picked usually as the favorite toy, he still did his best to serve and help her.

    Of course, parents everywhere can relate to this. Being there for your children is a very noble task, no matter how hard it is. Even if you’re not a parent, you can be there for someone and help them make their lives happier. You can be there for your friend, classmate, co-worker, business partner, teammate, acquaintance, etc.
  3. “If you sit on a shelf for the rest of your life, you”ll never find out.” -Woody
    Woody said this to Gabby Gabby after she just got rejected by a girl who she wholeheartedly believe that will take her. It shattered her and left her broken inside. When Woody was about to return to Bonnie, he noticed Gabby Gabby and thought that he can help her too(this is why Woody is my favorite character). Eventually, Woody and the others found a girl who was glad to take Gabby Gabby home.

    How about you? How many times were you afraid to do something you wanted to do? How many times did you let a simple rejection break your confidence? If you never actually try to do what you want or to achieve your goal, then you’ll never get what you want. You also can’t let rejection or failure stand in the way of your goals or dreams. Chase your dreams, work towards your goals, and always remember to never give up!

I love Toy Story, I love how it teaches you life lessons that are important. I’m sad that this might be the last movie of the franchise since…well you know what happened if you watched the movie. I say farewell to the Toy Story gang. To Infinity…and beyond!

I didn’t know Keanu Reeves voiced this character

Whatever it is, do it NOW!

Has something like this ever happened to you: you’re at school and it’s recitation time, the teacher asked a question, everybody’s wondering what the answer is, but you know. So you want to raise your hand but didn’t. Maybe because you weren’t sure if it was the right answer that you’re thinking. Maybe because you’re afraid that your classmates will think that you’re Mr. or Mrs. smarty pants. Whatever reason you had for not raising your hand, you hesitated. A few seconds later, your classmate Michelle raised her hand and gave the right answer. Your teacher praised her and gave her a high grade for recitation. You probably hated Michelle for a few seconds or even a few minutes because she stole your answer, your high grade, and your praise.

I’m pretty sure something like this has happened to everyone, especially the shy ones. Unless you were a confident kid, this would happen to you.

One example of this is when I took summer basketball lessons at elementary school. I think I was in 5th grade. I finished the lessons thinking that I would be a better player, but I didn’t practice or play at all after that. I kept playing video games rather than basketball, and I put off playing telling that I will play tomorrow. Tomorrow then became the day after tomorrow, then turned to a few days, then next week, until I forgot to even play at all. I regret this so much because up to now I STILL can’t say that I am good at playing basketball. I suck! I know how to play compared to when I started, but all that time spent I could’ve developed my skills were wasted. If I only did give time to practice and play basketball, I could’ve been good enough to play at local tournaments.

I also remember a story I read from the book Chicken Soup for the Soul. It’s titled “Why Wait?…Just Do It!” by Glenn Mcintyre. The story here is about a person who wanted to ride a motorcycle but didn’t know where to start. He just bought a motorcycle and started riding. At an early age of 17, he started to ride and fell in love with it. He rode until he ran out of roads years later. At the age of 23, he had a road accident and became a paraplegic. He was thankful that he rode at an early age because he wouldn’t have experienced those wonderful things on the road if he hadn’t started riding at that early age.

Whatever you want to do, whether it be to get a different career, try a new hobby, start a business, travel to another continent, do it NOW! The sooner, the better. Stop putting off for tomorrow what you can do now because there’s no guarantee that there will be a tomorrow at all.

Why “Never Give Up” doesn’t apply to Everybody

We’ve all heard of cliche phrases. There’s that Nike phrase “Just Do It,” there’s also that Bob Marley song “Don’t Worry, Be Happy,” and the two most overused words for people aspiring to be successful and that is “Work Hard.” Although there’s one ubiquitous phrase that became my favorite the moment I’ve heard of it, and that phrase is “Never Give Up.” 

Most people like this phrase. It shows perseverance against all odds, inhuman resilience. It shows a person willing to go through hundreds or even thousands of failures and rejections just to taste their big success. 

There are countless stories on the internet like these. From ultra famous names to regular everyday people. From Steve Jobs to Sylvester Stallone to Colonel Sanders of KFC. They went through a number of failures or rejections to get where they are today.

Before you get inspired to persist at whatever that you are doing or working on right now, there is one big caveat that many people don’t realize about this: This is not applicable to everybody.

What if your current job is not something that you like or actually hate? What if you don’t even give a damn on the current project you’re working on? What if somebody else told you to start that hobby that you’re not even the least bit interested in? What if the person you’re dating is not the right one for you?

These are just some of the exceptions to this famous phrase. There are some things in life that if you give up on, then your life will actually become better. After you give up on certain things, you might try a new thing and little that you know that this new thing will be much better for you than that thing you gave up on.

Don’t get me wrong, you shouldn’t give up on something that you truly care about, but if this something does not bring you joy or happiness anymore, then, by all means, give up on it and make room for something far better.

Leveling Up in Video Games and How it can be Applied in Real Life

Before I became anything else, I first became a gamer. My parents bought the PlayStation One for me and my two older brothers, and we were hooked with video games ever since. I was always fascinated by video games. They were fun and entertaining. When I was a kid, I could play them all day on the weekend breaks from school. I still play video games to this day, but not as much as I did when I was a kid.
There was one concept in video games that I always thought about. It’s called “Level Up.” It’s a situation where your character or player reaches a higher level where they get stronger, faster, smarter, overall better than their previous level. I always reach a feeling of euphoria, even just for a few seconds whenever I see the level up icon on my character when I play those games. It made me feel like I accomplished something wonderful.

I then thought that hey, this can be applied in real life too! Think about it. There are levels in almost everything in life. In school, there is Pre-school > Elementary > High School > College/University > graduate school/law school/medicine school. In a job, there’s usually an Entry-level > Supervisor > Manager > CEO/Owner. In sports, there’s a Beginner > Amateur > Professional > World Class. There are levels everywhere.

How can we apply this to real life though? These are just games though? Here are a few tips:

1) Grind and Put In The Work

In RPGs, you have to kill enemies, monsters or bosses to raise your level usually. You have to kill a lot of these just to raise your level. It’s the same thing in real life but not with monsters or enemies though. You have to work hard and make an effort to raise your level.

For example, if you work in a sales job, then you have to make a certain number of calls. There are quotas, and the best salesman goes above and beyond those quotas to become the best. If the average salesman does 30 sales calls a day, then the top salesman does at least 80 sales calls a day. Work, work, then work some more.

2) Find out Ways to Earn Experience

In games, there are other ways to raise your level rather than kill monsters. These are usually quests and sidequests, basically a set of tasks you do in exchange for a reward. In real life, there are quests and sidequests you have to take to get better.

Let’s take sidequests, for example, these are optional quests but they will greatly help in making you better suited to take on the main quests. You can do optional things to better yourself like taking a class, going to a seminar, reading a book, getting a mentor, learning a new language, etc. These are optional so you don’t have to do them, but if you do, you will get your extra reward and raise your level faster.

3) Get Great Teammates

There are games where you have to play with other people. These games are where you get a team to work towards a common goal or to defeat the opposing team. There is a saying that “you are only as strong as your weakest link” so if you have bad teammates, then no matter how good you are, you will have bad results.

Jim Rohn said that “You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with.” This applies to the team around you. If you spend time with a group of people, then you will become like the people in that group.

So I suggest you get the best team that you can. The higher level they are, the better. Spend time with the Valedictorian, the top student, the best-selling writer, the top artist, the CEO, the owner, the top employee, the best performer of the month, the millionaire, the rich businessman, top salesman, and so on. If you want to be a top player, then hang out and play with the current top players.

CAVEAT: In games, there is a Max Level, in real life there is no such thing.

Take note of this. Sometimes there are max levels in the game. It can be level 99 or 100 or 200 or whatever. In real life, there is no such thing as a max level. There is always room for improvement. This is the Japanese concept called Kaizen. It says that you should strive for constant and never-ending improvement. If you think you are the best and you have mastered everything there is to master, that’s not the case. There are always new things you can learn to raise your level. Even the master sometimes acts like a beginner to learn something new.

Now you know how to raise your level in this game called Life.

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